that way with everyone and may very well be aggressively pursuing other people at the exact same time. About a month later, my two friends were no longer dating. I find that other women often think like I do: If a guy is exhibiting dating behavior that the woman thinks is unusual, she assumes the man is only behaving in that "unusual" way toward HER. She will offer to split, but you think she doesnt mean it and you dont want to be a jerk. My opinion is this: If a same-sex couple is meeting for the first time, one of you should assume full financial responsibility. Apparently, I was just as careless! At the bar, you will chat nervously for an hour (she is not as pretty or as funny as you had hoped shed be and then you will be saddled with the 27 check even though she ate most of the sweet potato fries. I do not want my dating choices to be limited to the guys who are still optimistic enough to send a message; I might miss some good ones who are just tired of being ignored and I cant blame them.